Teen Self Harm Recovery

Self harm, also called “non-suicidal self harm”, happens when children hurt themselves on purpose. Self-harm is often a way of coping with negative emotions. In a young child, it is often because they cannot express their feelings or get their needs met. Children might find that this behaviour is a way to get relief from painful, overwhelming feelings, deal with feelings of numbness, and to communicate distress to others. Common ways that children harm themselves include:

• Cutting themselves

• Scratching, biting, or pinching themselves

• Burning their skin (eg. with a cigarette)

• Taking too much medication, but not enough to kill themselves (minor overdosing)

• Hitting themselves

• Hitting one’s head (eg. against a wall)

If you suspect or discover that your child is self-harming, it’s natural to feel confused and scared. However, there are several skills and strategies that we can help your child learn to prevent them from harming themselves, and find healthy ways to cope with stress. Some of these strategies include:

• Active, healthy movement (going on walks, playing at the park, sports)

• Having open, non judgemental conversations with a parent or caregiver where all emotions are validated

• Writing, listening to music, drawing

• Cuddling with a pet

• Inhaling deeply through the mouth for four seconds, holding one’s breath for another four seconds, slowly exhaling through the nose for another four seconds, and repeating. This technique is known as square breathing, and it can quickly reduce intense emotions..

Your Child does not have to struggle with self-harm alone. Thrive has a variety of specialists that will work with your teen to empower them in their recovery!